I am going to weigh in on the Ray Rice thing. I have kept quiet for the most part so far.
Would I personally ever hit a woman? No, I was raised not to do that.
Defend myself, yes. If she was dangerous enough that I had to hit her
to save myself from harm, yes, I would have to. But, in all other
cases, I would restrain her but not hit her. I am a lot stronger than
most females. I wouldn't have to knock her out like Ray Rice did. He
could have done that. He didn't. He gets the
punishment now for choosing A, and not B. Obviously, no woman has a
knockout punch like that coming, but certainly she wasn't some innocent
victim who didn't provoke him. Again, however, that doesn't give Ray
Rice a pass, in any way.
Now, my premise is that if we want to stop
this sort of thing (as much as we can, because no matter what, some men
will always hit women, no matter what we do), I feel we need to ask
where the fathers of these women are. Or, the brothers.
frankly, if I had a daughter, it would be very clear to whomever she
chooses that if they hit her, ever, they will have to deal with me, and
they wont want to go there. I can be very nasty and violent when I need
to be, which is rarely, but still, you don't want to mess with me. That
would be clearly understood.
I don't have a daughter. But I do have a
sister. And the same goes there. My brother in law would never dream of
hitting my sister. But..if he did, he knows that he would have to deal
The only thing that works with the Ray Rice types, the
type that can't just restrain the woman and hits and injures women, is
the fear that someone bigger and stronger than them will do something
If you watch The Godfather, there is a scene in it to the effect of what I am saying here.
We need to teach girls to think that the good men in their life can
protect them from the abuse, and the men that they choose should
understand that they aren't picking a fight with a girl they can beat,
they are picking a fight with a team that can fight back.
mainly why the players in the NFL don't want Ray Rice back. He would be a
lousy teammate. A guy who would beat the woman he loves, unconscious,
and drag her from the elevator like some Moose or Deer he just killed in
the woods, is not someone I would have confidence to have my back on