A blog to showcase my opinions and thoughts. Various forms from Artist Profiles to Random Thoughts, as well as long, newspaper style opinion pieces. And everything in between.
You see them all the time. Those memes. Posted mostly by insecure people who claim they are okay with how they look or how they are, but in fact are insecure about it and want others to validate them by agreeing with the meme. The worst ones are the "real men" or "real women" ones. Real Men like Real Women with curves. Etc. Or some variation on that theme and starting point. In my world, all men are real. Men like women. Unless they are gay. Then they like men. Some like both. Women like men. Unless they are lesbians, then they like women. Some like both. Some men like curvier, heavier, shapelier women. Some like skinnier, firmer ones. Most men like any woman who looks good within her own body shape and are willing to have sex with them. Because, most men want any woman who is attractive and will have sex with him.
This whole real men and real women thing is just stupid. Real stupid. Baskin Robbins has 31 flavors for a reason. We all like different things. Doesn't make one better than the other. Doesn't mean anyone is fake or real for having those preferences. Accept who you are, and who others are, and start being real. Not real stupid.
When "The Good Wife" came out, I was compelled to watch it. It was the hot topic show, button pushing concept we all wanted to see dramatized and played around with. There was also Chris Noth. A lot of us love Chris Noth from the Law And Order days, and many like him from his Sex In The City days. In "The Good Wife" Noth might have been the original starting point, but mostly he was a secondary character that they framed everything else around and gradually the show became more about the wife than the "bad husband." I loved that show. I watched all of season 1 religiously, but lost my way and still haven't seen any episodes since. I certainly plan to go back and watch them all. Julianna Margolis is a fantastic actress, the supporting cast is superb, the writing is top shelf and almost all of the episodes kept your attention from start to finish.
The show was based mostly on Eliot Spitzer's wife, the one who stood by him on the podium when he copped to having multiple affairs and liasons with prostitutes, escorts and call girls of varying degrees. At the time, he was not the only one. There was a steady stream of men who got caught with their pants down, so to speak. Spitzer was then the Governor of New York, and the glory boy with a big time hard ass reputation who could have ended up President one day had he not got caught. His wife Silda was by his side at the podium, being the good wife. Hence, the impetus for the title and the show.
The Good Wife mixed two different scenarios into one. At around the same time, the Governor of Illinois, Rod Blagojevich (Blago) was found to be horrifically corrupt and sent to jail. The show also deals with that topic and mixes in the Spitzer situation and uses Illinois as the base. Again though, it is mostly about the wife and what it is like to be her when you are in the position to make a decision to support your husband, one who is having his and your dirty laundry aired in public and act like you are on his side, when likely you aren't anymore.
http://nypost.com/2013/09/11/spitzer-weiner-good-wives-disappear/ What is it like to be the wife in that situation? To have to play the good wife in front of the camera and then deal with it all when the public eye doesn't get to see the rest of the hours in the day. That is what the show explores, and then adds a whole bunch of drama and subplots to the mix, all the time adding a dash of the good wife situation and the failed husbands story to pull it all together. And then yesterday I saw another Rob Ford press conference. This one, after he made outrageous statements in city hall and to the press. Even for Ford, this was too much.
Lets be perfectly clear about something. Rob Ford couldn't take the high road even if the Space Shuttle was attached to his ass. No one would ever mistake him for slick or well spoken. We all understand that. But as men, we also know there are certain things you can never say and not pay a huge price for. Even more than what you do wrong, it is what you say wrong that really leaves a mark. And a scar.
"But it was his
comments about allegations in court documents released Wednesday that he
had claimed to have been intimate with former policy adviser Olivia Gondek that stunned reporters.
“It says I wanted to
eat her pussy and I have never said that in my life to her. I would
never do that. I’m happily married and I’ve got more than enough to eat
at home,” he said before heading up to council."
And yet, despite this stunning comment to the world, one that even the dumbest of men and politicians would never make, there was his wife on the podium with him a few hours later when he had to "eat" those words.
Rob Ford's rarely seen and stunned wife beside the podium yesterday.
We had never really seen Ford's wife--nor seen her at the podium--like we did yesterday. To say she looked stunned-- and shocked--is a monumental understatement. I can only imagine what she is saying to him when they get back home and nobody else but those two have to face each other.
Rob Ford isn't a confirmed adulterer, although most suspect that he is. But he is a confirmed liar, drunk, drug user, drunk driver and one who associates with drug dealers and gang members. He is also a bully and a general jack ass. As far as we know, Eliot Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Mark Stafford and Anthony Weiner are just smart and slick educated guys who cheat on their wives a lot. That is bad enough, but none of them are in Rob Ford's ballpark. And now, Rob Fords wife is the disrespected wife. What he said yesterday was so out of line and vulgar that I can't see even the most devoted of good wives staying with him. If she does, it is only because she is in such a level of shock that she is the deer in the headlights at this point. If she survives and the car doesn't run her over, she has only one real option: To run off into the woods and as far away from Ford as she can. In my opinion, he now is beyond help and the way this ends is with a very traumatic incident where somebody dies. Likely him. Just like OJ, but with a much different ending. This is no Hollywood drama with carefully crafted plots and twists. Nobody knows what's coming next. But what we do know is that not even the most devoted of good wives could withstand what he did yesterday. You can cheat on them and some will forgive, but when you describe what Ford did in public yesterday, you disrespect them and no woman ever forgives or forgets that.
I don't like reality TV. I have stated that many times over. Sure, there are a few good ones. Most of those are true Reality TV. Those aren't made up situations like Survivor or Dancing With The Stars...or the insiders view of a stars life, like watching Gene Simmonds or Ozzy Osbourne sit down to breakfast with his kids. I can do without all of that. One has nothing to do with reality while the other is the boring reality of life. Neither interest me. Watching a year in the life of a star or an interesting person, when they just do what they do and let down their guard, that I will watch from time to time. One I enjoyed was a movie/documentary on Woody Allen as he played New Orleans Jazz in Europe. That was a very interesting thing to see. And certainly not scripted..or boring.
However, I don't live alone. I do have a wife. And she does like Reality TV. All of it it seems. The Amazing Race, American Idol, Dancing With The Stars, all the matchmaker shows, the cooking shows. You name it, she watches it. From time to time then...I am exposed to these. Mostly, I tune them out but every now and then I pay attention. Her favorite is The Bachelor (and its partner in crime The Bachelorette). The last few weeks I have happened to pay attention when she was watching The Bachelor. That is mostly the case because of who the bachelor is this time. I found this guy, Sean, to be extremely phony and a total player/playboy. So when it got down to the last 3 women and he met their families an interesting thing happened. There were 3 girls left, Catherine, Lindsay and Desiree. Desiree was the first to get cut. She seemed like the nicest girl in the world and it was hard for her to understand why she was cut. But anyone watching didn't have to guess. Desiree's brother called Sean out about being a player and a phony. Any guy who sees Sean knows his type. He will say the same exact thing to every woman he meets and in fact did that on the show. So, for that reason, I was a bit interested to see how he would handle the last two.
If you have ever watched this show, then you know that when it gets down to the last two the real drama starts. Everything that comes before that is just TV formulated drama so that the viewers will keep watching and ratings will be high. It is nothing more than Dallas or Dynasty, except with real people that can't act. When you are down to the last two, then real hearts are on the line. That was the case last night. Here is where it gets much worse. The way they set it up is that the guy basically tells both women that they are "the one" even though he knows and they know it can only be one of the two. Both women believe wholeheartedly that they are "the one" and that the other one is going home. From there, it follows a similar pattern and script. The guy says (and they all say this, I haven't seen one not say this) "I never thought this would be so hard, this is the hardest thing I have ever had to do." Then he meets with both of them separately, each one not knowing if they are getting cut or if they are going to "spend the rest of their lives with him." Last night was the worst of it that I have seen.
Lindsay, who got cut believed completely that she was going to be "the one". She even said repeatedly that it was going to be the best day of her life. The first day of the rest of her life. If ever there was going to be a deer in the headlights it was her. And the producers knew that. They filmed it anyway and then milked it for every cent. If they had any class they would have stopped it and even if they didn't stop it they should have never shown it. Again, The Bachelor is an inherently stupid show. Twenty five women all fighting at the same time, living together in the hope that they will end up being the one woman he picks. In most instances he is at least kissing all of them...at the same time. I don't know a woman alive who would put themselves through that knowingly. It is just idiotic on its face. That is the way I used to look at the show. It is just stupid. Until last night, when it went further. It is not just stupid. It is just plain cruel. The lengths that they will go to get ratings these days is shameful. Sure, you can say that the women are stupid for putting themselves in this position, and that is true, but even so the producers of these shows make it extra cruel to the point you know they are doing it at the expense of the feelings of the participants. It is one of the worst things I have ever seen on television. The woman who got cut last night, Lindsay, actually told the guy to "stop, just stop." She couldn't take it anymore. It was painful to watch.
But, they just kept rubbing it in. It was terrible to watch that and see them milk that cow for everything they could. Even for reality shows, it was way over the top. Shameful would be a good word for it. No, cruel would be better. I used to think reality shows like The Bachelor were just stupid (and they are) but there is another level. To intentionally cause pain and keep doing it like they did, just for the sake of the ratings is cruel. And to watch the above clip, to see the host just keep pushing it, keep digging into her, was beyond cruel. If you watch this show on a regular basis, then you have to take a look at yourself. Why do you want to see that sort of thing?
I will leave it there. I think this is a turning point for how our society views entertainment. We have to start thinking about why this appeals to people. It was all fun and games when it was The Dating Game, but there isn't anything fun or satisfying watching The Bachelor.
No, I can't help you from being lame. No, I can't help you from being a male chauvinist pig. No, I can't help you get laid. No, I can't help you much at all.
But, yes, I can help you at least make some sense and make compliments to women that at least have some sense of decency. That is the least I can do. Since you were obviously raised by a bunch of wild animals in the deep recesses of the Amazon, I feel it is my duty..NO..obligation..to help you out. I feel I am blessed and I am giving back. I am "paying it forward".
What turns a woman on? Have you ever even thought of that? Contrary to your popular belief, she isn't just thinking about your large cock 24/7. Yes, like most women, she loves cock. But she doesn't need to see your cock. Not yet anyway. And not in her inbox. If she wants it in her inbox, the real one, the wet one with a hole in it, she will ask for it when the time is right. If you send her a gross, highly inappropriate pic before that time, you are never getting in her inbox anyway. The truth is, with your lame strategy (when I say strategy, of course I mean your bullshit mindless tactic, as you have no actual strategy because it is beyond your intelligence level) the only action that fake large cock you just sent is going to get is a highly personal and romantic interlude with your palm. She already knows she showed some cleavage and boobage. She knows she has great boobs. She doesn't need you to tell her how that turns you on and how you would suck her nipples hard. She already gets that. Just tell her she looks sexy. That is what she is looking for. You can describe in more detail your nipple sucking and boob stroking abilities if you ever actually get to touch them...not before. Contrary to what your male dominated society told you, she doesn't live to serve you, pleasure you, wait on you hand and foot and make endless babies for you. If you are looking for that, then you should go back to pursuing the women of your country who still will act in that way. I know, there aren't that many left of those either, because even they won't give in to that old way of living and thinking. Anything you say that makes her think you are still living under that false impression, that the world still works like that, is just a ticket out the door and a certain block on facebook. The whole point is to compliment, make her feel good, not like she needs to take a shower. Are you listening? She is taking that shower, not to stick her finger inside herself while thinking of your large, fake cock, but to wash off that dirty feeling you just gave her. Make her laugh. Make her think you don't just see her as a piece of meat, even though you do. Make her think you have some respect for women as more than just baby making and child rearing machines. Even though you don't, at least put out some effort in that respect. I hope this helps. I know it wont. But I felt obligated to do so. I am paying it forward. Feel free to ignore it and go backwards. I have done what I can. I feel like I have done my good deed for the day.
P.S. If all this fails, then feel free to go back to the Webcam girls who make you pay for their time and will tell you whatever you want to hear. They love to hear how you will fuck them, suck them, lick them..as long as the meter is running.
1. He knows it is bad for him. He doesn't need to hear it
from you and he doesn't care. He will eat that crap anyway, and if you
bug him enough, he will do it just despite you. And if you bug him enough, he will hide it, lie about it or go out and do it. You can't win this one, don't try.
2. He is keeping that stuff he got from his ex girlfriend, the one you hate
and are still jealous of. That girlfriend he broke up with and decided that you
were the better option than. He still wants to keep that stuff. So get
over it. It is about the stuff, not her. That is a girl thing, not a guy thing.
3. He is only watching The Bachelor with you so you get
all romantic and he gets some. If he says otherwise, he is lying. Or
gay. Or both. And no matter what, you aren't getting a rose afterwards. 4. Yes, you have the boobs and the pussy, but you don't get to have 90 percent of the blanket on the bed because of it. It's in the marriage contract. Look it up. He cuddled you for the first 30 minutes, that should be enough to keep you warm. Now, you have to share.
5. When he says it's nothing, it's really nothing. Unless you ask him 10 times, then it is something. Be happy with nothing. It is a lot better than something is going to be.
6. S-P-A-C-E. There, Now you can spell it. Try giving it.
Being in the next room and coming in to his every 20 minutes is not
space. That Mars/Venus thing applies here.
7. He is well aware that his old T-shirts and his socks
have holes in them. He is fine with that. He doesn't think there is any
reason to throw them out. He has personal reasons for keeping them that
you will never understand. When you get rid of the hundreds of shoes you
never wear, then he will listen to your bullshit reasons. Not before.
And even then, he is keeping his shit.
8. Don't bother faking it. He probably
wouldn't notice either way. And you aren't Meryl Streep or Meg Ryan, so
there is that as well.
9. If it is clean, he doesn't want you to wash it. He
only washes things when they are very dirty. Even when they are very
dirty, he doesn't want to wash them. The point of washing something is
to make it clean. If it is still clean, don't wash it. If it is just a
bit dirty, don't wash it. If it is very dirty, just wash it, but shut up
about how dirty it is. Dirt is transient. He gets that. You should too.
10. That dress you are wearing and just bought for him-he
doesn't care. Any outfit you wear is just as hot as the next, because
all he cares about is how you look naked underneath it. Victoria's Secret
has messed with your mind there. Complain to them about it. Not him.
1. She has the boobs. Therefore, she always has the ultimate power and tie breaker. Accept that and get used to it.
2. If it is only
"okay" you better tell her it is fantastic, or else she will keep asking
until you say it is. What "it" is doesn't really matter. It can be
anything. Until it is fantastic, it is not okay.
3. If she says you are driving too fast. you are. Just shut up and slow down. It isn't worth it.
4.
Going out with your buddies is not more important than spending every
waking minute with her. If you think you can make this argument and win,
then go out with them, and then don't go back home. You have no idea
what you are in for. 5. You now have to
watch some chick flicks. Sorry, that is just how it is if you wish to
get laid again ever in your life. Furthermore, Keanu Reeves can act and you better get used to saying that. Just do it. Keanu Reeves is a great actor. He is because he is cute. Do not attempt to convince her otherwise. 6. The Bachelor is a good show well worth watching. Say it again. If you say it enough times it will start to sound believable.
In addition, tell her you would only give a rose to her. This can erase a lot of future errors you are going to make anyway.
7. She will forget where she left her glasses,
her keys, her purse. But she won't ever forget that insulting thing you
said 25 years ago. That baby is burned in her brain and ready to be
called back up at any time. If you said it, you now own it. You will pay for it for the rest of your life.
8. When she says "I was thinking" you can be sure that the next words won't be something that is going to work out well for you.
9. You only watch porn so you can learn to give her better pleasure. Make sure you tell her that.It wont work but at least you made the effort. She will appreciate that for a few minutes anyway. 10. Kicking crumbs under the couch is a very viable option to avoid arguments. But, be crafty. She is bound to look away for a second. That is your chance to make it happen.
Yesterday I was pretty sick. Massive headache and
swollen eyes. I get that about once every 3 months and yesterday was the
day. Could not write a thing, but my active mind was still active as
always.
So, I thought getting some fresh air might help, and it was a nice,
warm, sunny day. Clear blue sky, not a cloud to be seen. I made my way
out to the deck, grabbed a deck chair and just closed my eyes for an
hour to try to beat the headache. Didn't work, but it felt good anyway.
As my eyes were closed I could hear the birds chirping to each other. I
also heard a bee buzzing by me, as I have planted many flowers in the
backyard.
That got me thinking of the song "The Birds And The Bees"
The line in that song I always remember is:
Let me tell you about the birds and the bees and the flowers in the trees and the moon up above and a thing called love
Let me tell you about stars in the sky and a girl and a guy and the way they kiss on a night like this
when I look into your big brown eyes its so very plain to see
that its time you learned about the facts of life
starting from a to z
Of course, I am 47. I have kissed many girls and had more
than my share of sex as the years have gone by. I don't need any
lessons in the birds and the bees. I got that talk anyway when I was 10.
I know what my equipment is and how to use it on a woman with her
equipment. There was that time when I wondered as a young guy if I would
know where to put it, or..how to find the hole. And what if I missed
and couldn't get it in the hole? But, luckily for me, when the time
came, I didn't miss.
Anyway, back to the birds and the bees. I started to look at the bees in
the garden and wondered how they mated. I mean, dog and cats and horses
and gorillas have obvious sex organs and we can see how they do it. For
the most part, they do it exactly how we humans do it. In some cases,
sadly, they last just as long as we do, but that is a story for another
blog.
But bees? How do they do it? I can't see any sex organs on a bee and I
have (not to my knowledge) even seen two bees mate. I am sure they do,
because there are always more bees, but how?
So, today, as I was feeling better, I decided to find out about the real birds and bees.
Here is what my research came up with.
The reproductive cycle of bees is unique, and is
fundamentally interconnected with the caste system of bee colonies.
Within any colony, there are three types of adult bees: the queen, male
drones and female workers. A colony will typically have only one queen
who lays all the eggs. Female workers are sterile and do not reproduce.
Male drones mate with the queen to produce offspring.
Mating and Laying
The actual mating process usually occurs above ground in
mid-flight, and results in the death of the drone as he expends semen.
Bees practice internal fertilization and penetrative mating. When the
queen lays her eggs, she lays them in the cells of a wax honeycomb built
by workers. Eggs are laid one to a cell, and may be fertilized or
unfertilized. Unfertilized eggs develop into male drones (yes, this is a
highly unusual form of reproduction!) while fertilized eggs develop
into females. Fertilized eggs are produced through mating with drones,
which may or may not come from the same hive.
Hatchlings and Genetics
Within a few days, eggs hatch. At this point, the hatchling
is in larvae form and resembles a tiny white worm. After about a week,
the larvae enter the immobile pupae stage and their comb cells are
capped by the workers. After another 8 to 10 days or so, a mature bee
will emerge from the cell.
There is no genetic difference between a queen bee and a female worker
bee. The difference is developmental. When a new queen is needed,
workers will feed a single new female bee a substance called royal jelly
while she develops in a specially enlarged comb cell.
I think the thing we should take note of here is that only one female bee gets to mate and any male that mates with her and expends his semen dies as a result. In the bee world, only the Queen bee "gets some" and the male bee dies if he cums. I have new respect for those bees. Talk about paying the price to get laid.
1)Just shut up. You can't win no matter what you say.
2)She is right, whether she is wrong or right. She is still right.
3)Nothing she wears ever makes her look fat.
4)You ask "what's for dinner?" She says that "tomorrow is garbage day."
Just nod and act like everything is just fine. If you pretend what she
says has anything to do with anything thing you just said you might end up being fine.
You have one shot here. Don't blow it.
5)Love, honor, obey and nag. Yes, it was in the vows, you just didn't hear it. Too bad for you, you agreed to it.
Next time you should listen better instead of thinking about two hours later when you were going to get laid.
6)None of her girlfriends are hot. And if they are, you didn't notice.
But they are not. How could they be? Only she is hot and the rest of the women on the planet don't even rate.
7)You did it. doesn't matter if you actually did it or not. You did it. Just admit it and get the pain over faster.
8)Sex with every girl you ever met before her was never any good compared to her.
9)When she says its nothing..its something. when
she says its something, it's really bad. When it is something and she
wont say anything, it is very very bad. 10)You are not allowed to look at any hot woman. Scratch
that. You are not allowed to look at any woman period. If you have not
mastered the art of peripheral vision by the time you marry her, it is
over for you.
"Teacher Teacher can you teach me, can you tell me all I need to know?"
Tiffany Shepherd was a Florida school teacher who lost
her job in 2008 because she posed for somewhat revealing and some might say
racy pics on an internet site geared to fisherman. Were they racy? Maybe.
Did she use poor judgement? Probably. The reality is that her pics were
just pics of herself in a bikini. The fact that she has very large
boobs and she was in a bent over position to reveal a large portion of
them is possibly poor judgement, but not racy in the sense that she was
trying to be overly, overtly sexual in any way. She didn't perform sex acts in any of them (yet). But more about that later.
She actually took the pics and they hit the internet because she did not
earn enough money teaching high school biology to make ends meet. She
became a "bikini model" as a supplemental income so she could continue
to teach school and survive.
Apparently, this is the picture that got her fired
“I can make $600 in two days modelling. That’s a week’s pay for me.”
A tamer picture. Would she get fired, just for this one? Probably not.
The
school claimed she had poor attendance as a teacher and that is why she
was fired. That is a nice theory, however, they didn't fire her for
that until she had those revealing pics show up. So if they were so
concerned about her teaching and attendance, why didn't they do anything about it, if
they cared so much about the kids education in the first place?
Obviously, they didn't.
Would you care if your childs teacher looked like this and posted this picture on her facebook page? If her boobs were much smaller, how would that bear on your opinion?
She did lose her job as the school teacher, and because of that could
not get another teaching position. Because of her circumstances and the
physical assets she has, she turned to porn as a means to support
herself.
Now, I am not claiming that Tiffany Shepherd is very bright at all. She
isn't. She made a porn video about a teacher having sex with her
student and it was called "My first sex teacher" and then said she
wasn't happy about it being portrayed as a video about teachers having
sex with students.
"I’m
livid about that one. It wasn’t supposed to be about a teacher and a
student. I didn’t even know the name of the film until I saw it online.”
Here is the very real and sad part of this whole thing.
Tiffany Shepherd, who is now the porn star known as Leah Lust, makes a
far better living having sex on camera than she ever would have as a
school teacher. There is something wrong with this world when she can do
that. In the same light, Nadya Suleman, The Octomom, has
significantly increased her earning power by having 14 babies and then
turning to porn to earn money.
We all know that sex sells, but in a world where you can make more
money-and hence your monetary earning power and value is much greater-making porn than teaching children in school, is it any wonder that we
have the choices we have for the elected officials we do? We don't value
school teachers enough and they can make a better living fucking on
camera for strangers than teaching children how to be responsible and informed adults who can end up being productive. I have no problem with anyone doing porn, watching porn, selling porn or anything to do with porn. But we do need schoolteachers and when we can't afford to pay them a decent wage and they must resort to getting a second income, we have to ask ourselves where our priorities are at. What kind of message are we sending to our kids in a situation like this?
My friend Michelle Franco wrote a blog yesterday about
getting a massage. I thought it was highly entertaining and have
included it below. Instead of just commenting on it, I thought I would
write a blog of my own on the subject, as I have discussed this very
issue with a few friends over the years.
I get sore just like any other person. As I get older
that gets worse. In the past few weeks I have had a very significant
stiff neck. Significant enough that I could not drive for a few days.
Significant enough that I had to use my arms to lift myself out of bed
because my neck would not turn. I also have a chronically sore back
from my years of playing sports, and more specifically, golf. Since I
have gained a bit of weight in the last 20 years, I now have sore legs
as well. None of that is painful, nor life altering, but it is
noticeable and I probably could use some massage therapy.
But, I will never get a massage. Ever. And I am going to tell you why. There are two kinds of massage therapists. Men and Women. I will not be getting a massage from either of them.
Quite frankly, I don't ever want any man touching me,
other than shaking my hand. I know that if a massage therapist, who was
a man, was giving me a massage it would be because he is just doing his
job. I am not gay and he likely isn't either. Nevertheless it has
always made me uncomfortable for a man to touch my body. Chances are he
is not gay and even if he was the massage does not have to have any
sexual overtones. In any event, I don't feel comfortable with a man
touching my body, other than my hand, so it wont ever happen. If the
point of the massage is to relax me, that wont happen. So, it wont ever
happen.
That leaves a woman massage therapist as the only other option. For two
reasons that I can think of, that will not happen either. First, a
woman touching my body is going to turn me on. Assuming she has a very
nice touch, even more so. I can't help it. A woman touching my body with
her soft hands is going to make me excited, and most likely hard. That
is just a reality I accept. God made me that way and I realize that.
Being that I am there to relieve stress, aches and pains and what not,
the thought of a woman touching my body and me becoming aroused by it is
not going to leave me relaxed one bit. It is counterproductive to the reason I wanted the massage in the first place. A woman massaging me
who I cannot touch back would only increase my stress level, not reduce
it. It is for that exact reason why I never go to strip clubs. Why
would I want to be aroused by a woman I cannot touch? I don't.
The last possibility is getting a massage from a very unattractive
woman, one who physically is so unappealing to me that I cannot be
turned on by her no matter what. Likely, I would not even get that woman
as a matter of circumstance or luck. But, on the odd chance that I do,
still, I don't like the thought of an unattractive woman touching my
mostly naked body. It just doesn't seem like something I would want to
do. So, that option is out as well.
Therefore, it seems I will never get a massage. Now, if I was single,
and she was hot and it led to sex, that I would be okay with. Too bad
that porn fantasy that every guy has is not a reality, but pure fantasy.
If they ever invent a third sex, one that is neither female, or male, or sexual, then I am in business. Until then, I will just suffer along and be relaxed in the notion that no one is touching me that shouldn't be touching me.
If need be, I can take care of myself. I am certainly still capable of doing that.
I have just stumbled onto a group most probably already know. I somehow missed them the first time around. I heard Pink Martini's version of Que Sera Sera on the pilot episode of Dead Like Me as I was led to watch that recently. It was hauntingly good.
I decided I wanted to hear more from them, as I loved their cover of that Doris Day hit. The first song I came across was Hey Eugene. The lead singer of the group describes how she came up with the song.
"Hey Eugene is a song I wrote when I met this guy at a party and he asked for my number and then he never called. And I was perplexed because we had such a great connection."
I got thinking about that. You meet a girl. You get along with her. You like her. You ask for her number. You don't have to ask for her number, but you want it. You ask for it, and she gives it to you because she really likes you as well. Then you never call. I just don't get why you would do that. If she is good enough to give you her number, you should call. If you weren't interested, then don't ask for her number and leave it there. The minute you ask and receive, you are obligated to call. If you don't then you deserve what you end up getting in life.
Many times you hear women say that men mostly judge a woman by how she looks.
Is she pretty?
How big are her boobs?
How slim is she?
How attractive and sexy is she?
While that is not entirely true, there is some merit to that. Men do that.
But, women also do that with men. They don't like to admit that, and maybe they don't do it as much as men do, but they do it.
We all do it. We are visual, sexual animals who are stimulated by images of the opposite sex (or same sex if you are homosexual). It just comes natural. Of course, as mature adults we learn there is a lot more to the story than just looks and sex. But, it is still part of the story. A part of the story that will never go away.
Many entertainment genres are based on this. Of course porn is overt. Naked, and mostly very attractive and desirable men and women who are very good looking are presented as sexual objects for our desires and fantasies. But, within mainstream videos and tv shows (and films) this is done covertly to sell the product.
Certainly, Charlies Angels and Threes Company were not Shakespeare. A big part of their appeal were their female stars...and their lack of clothing.
The Dukes of Hazzard certainly wasn't either.
While the other shows gave us a lot of T & A, The Dukes of Hazzard used the sex appeal of its male stars, threw in some car chases and Catherine Bach to make sure they covered all the bases.
Catherine Bach and her daisy dukes.
As music moved into the video age, established rock bands knew how to use this strategy effectively as well.
Sex sells. It is also something all of us are interested in. We are sexual animals and looks matter.
Many times I have seen women comment how they don't look good in a pic they posted on Facebook because they don't have their makeup on. Women are very conscious of how looks are important, to them, to other women and to men. Looks are important. We all want to look good. There are varying degrees of that, but there are very few who don't deem it important to themselves.
Something that I have noticed on facebook..and other mediums. Women like to say that looks aren't that important. It is what's inside that matters. Heart, sincerity, caring. All that stuff.
However, when a woman posts a picture of themselves, the first thing that their women friends do is comment how hot and/or pretty she is. If she is showing some cleavage, women are right on that with a comment as well.
Women notice big boobs and pretty faces of other women just as much as men do. Maybe even more. They are just like men. They notice looks. That wont ever change. To judge men for doing it is to ignore that women do it just as much, if not more.
Knocking men for noticing that stuff when women notice it just as much if not more is just foolish. We all like to look good and be thought of as sexy and attractive. There is nothing wrong with that. There is also nothing wrong with noticing it, whether you are a man or a woman.
